Boy oh boy! It seems like just yesterday that I announced I got engaged, and now it’s already one week since we got married.
To say it was a perfect day would be an understatement, the sun was shining, our friends and family were there, and most importantly, I got to stand with my husband and let everyone know how happy I am.
Sure there were hiccups, like forgetting the rings and the marriage license, or having the seating arrangement you worked hours on a little messed up, but with a little help from our friends, the ceremony went beautifully. These kinds of things contribute to the sheer perfectness. Perfect doesn’t mean that everything goes exactly the way you planned, it means rolling with the punches and floating through the challenges gracefully.
We worked really hard to make the day comfortable, and intimate at Temple’s Sugar Bush. The day was a perfect representation of us. We had our wedding favours “Doggy Bags” which I designed and my mom made dog shaped sugar cookies, they came with a promise to donate to Sit With Me Dog Rescue instead of traditional favours.
I think I
surprised shocked some at how calm I was leading up to the day, and on the day itself. I wanted to take every moment in, and I knew freaking out about the unfinished things was going to cloud that. I found myself just taking a breathe and looking around me. Here I was, with my closest friends and family around me. They were all there for me and us. There’s something incredibly special about taking a moment and realizing that.
At a certain point, you have to give in that the certain things just won’t get done, and that’s okay. I assure you, I haven’t always been this calm with things. I actually thought I’d be a lot more high-strung around it, and surprised myself a bit as I glided through the engagement and next thing I knew it was our wedding day.
I’m an organization
freak queen; Sure I’ve got a spreadsheet to keep myself on track, and a binder which is well organized, but that’s how I stayed calm. If it was chaos and I felt unorganized, I would have stressed. I am, by nature, the type of person that likes to keep track of things in some sort of way.
All in all, it was amazing. I promise i’ll get back to the “food stuff” soon, but for now, here are my top 5 tips to getting married with grace:
- Find an online resource for you that works and is organized in a way that makes sense to you. For me, that was Wedding Wire. From keep track to budgets, to invitations and seating charts, this website (and app) allowed me to plainly see what was coming. You can also share it with your family or bridal party so they can see what the remaining to dos are.
- Get as much done ahead of time as possible, and accept that if it doesn’t get done, it’s okay. There were a couple of things that I was dead set on doing, and I actually didn’t really realize until the day of that they didn’t get done. And guess what, your guests won’t notice either.
- Keep your family in the loop. It wasn’t so hard for me to do that – I was excited and wanted to let my parents know what was going on. I quickly realized that important details weren’t making their way to the other side of the family, and so I took the time to fill them in whenever possible. When you’re a planner, it’s easy to forget that you have a support system around you ready and willing to help.
- Things will happen that you didn’t expect. Breathe. Sure there were a few things that happened leading up to the day and on the day that wasn’t in the itinerary, but just take a second, look around you. These people are here for you, and that’s incredible.
- Take it in. I heard from a lot of people that the day goes by so fast that you don’t really have time to take it in. I say this to that: Make the time to take it in. As a bride, your day likely starts off pretty early, grab that cup of coffee and sit with your bridesmaids as they get their hair done, and move around to see how the other members of your bridal party are doing. Sit in silence, soak it up. It takes a conscious effort, but you’ll be thankful you did.
With that, we are SO thankful to everyone who helped make our special day perfect. From a fantastic wedding party who helped set the low-key tone, to parents who showered us with love and support. THANK YOU!